71: What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with?
Aug 21, 2023
What makes a partner "good enough" to settle down with?
It's common knowledge (especially if you listen to my podcast often) that "perfect" isn't a realistic standard to search for when choosing a long-term partner. While your choice of partner is one of the most important choices you'll ever make, it doesn't mean you're settling if you chose "good enough." The question is, where is the line between "good enough" and "settling?" In this episode, I didn't necessarily draw that line for you, but gave you some different things to think about. I am hopeful that it will bring you some clarity and material for discussing with your partner when deciding whether or not to move forward.
[I recorded this on a hot delirium of a day with no AC. I went on a tangent a couple of times. Forgive me!... or maybe you'll love them. Lol.]
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Time Stamps:
1:45 Good enough versus perfect
4:00 Wanting contradictory things out of our partner
9:00 Having a “boring”/socially awkward partner
12:03 Going through different seasons of your life with your partner
16:12 Dating in your 20s vs your 30s+
19:34 Looks are important but the men who want to build a life with you will look for substance
21:00 Not knowing what you want in your 20s
24:18 Questions to ask yourself if you’re trying to figure out if your partner is “good enough” to settle down with
32:45 Women often mature more quickly than men
37:19 Dealing with incompatibilities
43:40 Being lead in your relationship in a nonabusive context